Be Authentic, With Boundaries

There’s a common misconception in our world today that being authentic means laying every part of yourself open to the world. But in my journey as a coach and through countless interactions, I've come to realize that authenticity is far more complex and profound. The true essence of authenticity is more than just openness.

Understanding Authenticity

Authenticity isn’t just about being open; it's about being true to yourself, your values, and your life’s purpose. It’s about showing up as the real you. However, this doesn’t necessarily entail sharing every aspect of your life with everyone. Authenticity stems from a place of self-awareness and presence. It’s about bringing your absolute truest self to each moment as it demands, not as a scripted performance.

The Role of Boundaries in Authenticity

What many often overlook is that being authentic also means having a focused approach for each situation. It involves understanding your boundaries, recognizing your strengths and limitations, and deciding how much of yourself to share in various contexts. Authenticity isn’t a one-size-fits-all; it’s tailored and conscious.

Authenticity Is Not an Open Invitation

Consider your life like a home. Some people are stopped at the gate, some are entertained in the garden, and a few in the lounge. Each space represents a part of you, reflecting your choices and taste. Your love for roses in the garden or your preference for abstract art in your lounge – these are expressions of you. But not everyone needs to see your most private spaces. Authenticity means knowing which parts of your ‘home’ you open to whom.

Embracing Authenticity in Interactions

When you embrace authenticity in all your interactions, your unique qualities, like empathy and intelligence, will manifest in different ways. How you empathize with your house help or engage with a colleague, how you approach a client meeting or navigate a family conflict – each scenario will see a different, yet authentic part of you.

Shine Your Authentic Light

As we move forward, let’s remember that being authentic is about shining our light brightly but focusing it right. It’s not about overexposure; it’s about meaningful exposure. Authenticity, with its boundaries, is empowering – it allows us to be true to ourselves while also respecting our own privacy and space.

As we head into our future, I encourage you to reflect on your own authenticity. Are you showing up as yourself, with boundaries that make you comfortable and confident? Embrace the power of being authentically you, because that’s where your true strength lies.

Wishing you an authentic life ahead.